Thursday, 2 July 2009

LEARN TO KEEP SECRETS

Keep these nine traditional secret subjects of your conversation with all people except your very close family and friends.

1. Age: Never discuss anyone’s age in public, nor divulge your age unless required by law or occasion.
2. Wealth or earning: never ask anyone how much they earn or possess in terms of wealth and property. So also, do not crib about or boast about your earning or wealth.
3. Never discuss anyone’s family problems publicly even though you happen to know them. Keep your family problems to yourself or discuss them with counselors or close friends only. Advertising the holes in your family fabric can make you a laughing stock in your community. Worse still, your detractors may use the knowledge to insult you or ridicule you at the wrong place or time.
4. Keep your intimate relationship with your spouse/partner out of common discussion unless you wish to invite trouble. Discuss it only with a counselor or within your family if they have goodwill and support for you. Do not discuss someone else’s marital problems in an open forum.
5. Keep your health problems to yourself except when you are with your doctor. Do not discuss the medicines you are prescribed or invite advice on how to deal with your illness, similarly, do not discuss anyone else’s disease or ailment threadbare till the patient is embarrassed.
6. Keep your spiritual pursuits close to your heart. What your guru teaches you, what mantra you chant or what religious practices you observe are no concern of anyone other than yourself and your family. Do not criticize others for their faith or different way of practicing religion or culture.
7. Do not boast about the honours you have won, the adulation you have received from the media or people around you.
8. Do not show your anguish about insults and hurts you have suffered in the presence of people other than your trusted ones. You will invite curiosity about your angst and give onlookers a chance to feel good at your downfall.
9. Never reveal others confidence given to you in good faith.

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